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I will try to cut the story short.
My ex and I have a baby together. he has been very violant towards me in the past and he served time for it.
He is not on our sons birth certificate and so legally he isnt the dad of my son.
He has visa issues and I feel he only wants parental responsibility to secure his stay in the Uk.
He is using our son as a tool and I hate that!
He wants to go to court which I am happy to do, but I dont want to be involved in any kind of visitation what so ever!
I want to stay away from him!
I also want an injunction but my solicitor turned me down as we dont know his address and my solicitor said she isnt willing to call him to get his address. I find this unfair as this could get the ball rolling! I want an injunction coz he has been harrasing me in the past and recently as well. All been reported to the police but nothing can be done by the police as we dont have his addess.
What shall i do next? Plz advise me if you can I just want this whole messs to end!
Thank u

I don't believe having parental responsiblity will affect his stay in the UK with regards to the visa ( If I am wrong someone will correct me).

If the police will only act upon receipt of his address, why don't you play nice and obtain such information?

Not correct.

He cannot do anything to get parental responsibility (if he does not already have it) without providing his address.

You have a solicitor. Listen to her. There is nothing to do, and nothing happening because his address is not known. It is very possible that any address you got would be fictional anyway.

Keep records of him harrassing you, keep them accurately and dispassionately. Report any criminal offence to the police, whether they do anything or not.

Injunctions do not stop fists.

Engaging with him, allowing his thoughts to live in your head, is the thing to get rid of if you can.

Thanks for that!! I actually been unable to put in words my feelings but you actually explained it really well!!!
And this is how i feel!! like he is living in my head and not allowing me to move on which i pretty much like to do!=)

thanks for the wise words!!!=) have a great evening

Injunctions (specifically non-molestation Orders under the 1996 Family Law Act) are powerful ways of deterring violent and threatening behaviour. The Police are capable of providing protection too if you let them know you are serious.

They only ever work where the person who obtains the injunction is prepared to take sensible steps to protect themselves alongside the injunction order. Aahmed seems to me to be doing just that.

Not being able to obtain an address should not be an obstacle. It should be easy for a private detective, if not the police to resolve. If you have legal aid this ought to pay the costs of hiring a private detective to make enquiries. I accept I do not know all the circumstances but I am not sure I would accept the word of a solicitor who claims not to be able to get an injunction in this situation.